Wednesday, January 2, 2008
A message to the preggers and non-preggers out there
Ok, so some of you know that I'm 5 months pregnant--second child-- and I just need to vent for a quick sec. Why do people think that the fact that you're pregnant gives them a free pass to insult you? For instance, my husband's aunt--who needless to say does NOT resemble Beyonce---had the nerve to go on and on about how "big I am". Her comments were more annoying because she repeatedly commented on my size when I was pregnant with my daughter. I just gave her my infamous "whatever" look but I really wanted to say "But, somehow I am still SMALLER than you" but I decided not to because I didn't feel like a war with my husband. I must say that her comments really hurt my feelings. Before seeing her that day, I was feeling good and looking good, if I must say so myself--my face was glowing, make-up fresh, hair done and cute outfit and then for someone, a family member, no less, to ridicule me, it hurt. All day Saturday I kept asking myself, "why would someone go out of their way to hurt my feelings?". But now, I understand--she's ignorant and rude, of course, but also she's a hater. She's so happy that she can finally point out something that she views as one of my physical flaws. And it makes her feel good to say that I've joined the "big girls' club". Next time, I'll be ready for her and when she says "you are so big", I'll kindly ask her why the size of my stomach bothers her so much?" and keep on walking. For 2008, I don't have time for the foolishness. Yes, my stomach is big--I'm pregnant and frankly, my stomach didn't actually go down flat from my pregnancy with my 2 year old daughter. But you know what, SO WHAT? I'm carrying a life and that in and of itself, is a beautiful thing. So, to all the pregnant beautiful women out there, hold your heads and tummies up high and strut your stuff like you're the ANTM! When the "haters" comment that you're so big just smile and say, "______". Fill in your own comeback line BUT just know that whatever someone says about you, don't let it get you down. And for all of the non-preggers out there, if you don't have anything nice to say, "keep your mouth closed". For all the women out there who've had kids, let's not forget how you looked when you were pregnant..pretty sure that you didn't resemble Beyonce while you were preggers. And for all the women who haven't had kids yet..well, you NEVER know what you'll look like... so don't be quick to judge.