Friday, February 1, 2008

A Portrait In Self Hatred

Do you know who that is in the picture? It's not an Asian flight attendant. It's actually Lil' Kim. It's fairly obvious that she's had self-esteem issues from her debut with her ultra sexy almost prostitute like image and lyrics. I won't deny that she had some good beats, but I personally never bought into the idea that she was empowering women by flipping the game on men.

But her physical transformation speaks to deeper problems. I've heard that she had skin complexion issues when she was growing up; and the love her life Biggie ultimately selected Faith Evans as his wife, a much lighter skinned woman and had mistresses like Charlie Baltimore who Kim competed with for his affection. And I think that's why she's chosen the medical surgery, skin bleaching, MJ-esque route to modify her looks. I think it's pretty sad though. She was cute back in the day, and now she just looks like an insecure, troubled clown.


Nadja said...

I am ASTOUNDED! I didn't recognize her! She was such a cute little thing. What the hell did she do??? Seriously, when the picture was coming in I was wondering who the Asian woman was!!!!

F.U. said...

Self-Hatred indeed! I don't think anyone ever told her she was beautiful. She used sex as her weapon and it seemed to work until she realized there wasn't enough head in the world that would make Big leave Faith and then after Big died she began to mutilate herself...hanging out with the white people wanting to emulate them and fuckin up your nose is one thing but the whole skin lightening thing is beyond me. She's a mess, and it’s sad because she seems to be the only one who doesn't know it.

TravelDiva said...

To Nadja - Nose jobs, skin bleaching, something with her cheeks and lips--totally butchered her face.

To F.U. - Totally agree.

DollFace said... first glance I thought it was an Asian chick too but then I looked and immediately recognized that monstrosity of a nose job!

Both Faith and Charli are biracial...all the bleaching in the world isn't going to get Kim their fair skin.


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TravelDiva said...

It's a good spot dollface!

James Tubman said...


she was gorgeous

self hatred is in all of us

people like michael and little kim just take it to it's logical conclusion

whenever you live in a society where your images of beauty are looked on as undesirable and other people's image of beauty which is totally different from yours is the norm it's going to be a constant struggle to deal with your looks

that's why people need to find something of value on them other than the way they look

and have a sense of humor about everything

Still_Pocahontaz said...

I dont think that was the case per se(Im a big fan) I think money changes people. I think she was beautiful at one point and when styled correctly she looks good. Poor Kim...she should've stayed out of Victoria Gottis plastic surgeons chair.

Eb the Celeb said...

I want to see a snapshot of Kim and MJ right next to each... because I swear they look like twins now.

shopaphilia said...

Oh my. I didn't even recognize her.

It's so sad when people can't love themselves and feel comfortable in their own skin.

Pretty.Hip said...

WOW!! I didn't even know who that was! She definitely has issues that plastic surgery cannot fix. I hope that she gets the help that she so desperately needs... ASAP!

TravelDiva said...

@ Still P - LOL.

@ Eb the C - I KNOW! I was thinking the same thing. It's like they went to the same surgeon....

@ shop and pretty h - She does need help, and a real friend or family member to hold a mirror up to her for real so she can stop the madness!

Smarty Jones said...

I think she's almost beyond help.
Self-esteem issues arise when one has a distorted sense of self. The problem is, she has mutilated herself beyond recognition and I'm not sure if our image of her is distorted or if hers is.
This is really sad. I hope she gets some help.

James Tubman said...

why didn't you respond to me :(

i feel left out even though i gave you such a provocative comment

i feel left out and used and abused

please give me some attention

Grown Woman said...

OMG!! I can't believe it. I didn't know who she was!!

TravelDiva said...

@ James Tubman - HAAA! My fault.

I think you make a very valid point--everyone has some degree of self-hatred and everyone deals with it in different ways. Finding something of value in yourself beyond the physical is probably the healthier way to deal with it.

James Tubman said...

you had me in here begging you for some love

(you probably one of those women who love to see a man beg)

why must you make me suffer so

TravelDiva said...

HA. That's a little "dramatical."